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Loss & Found: An Open Letter to Myself

Dear Janelle,

I’m so happy you have found the time to sit down and reflect 2016. I’m also more than girl-writing-in-her-moleskine-diary-picjumbo-comproud you’ve set your goals for the upcoming year and I’m confident you will meet them. I want to share somethings you’ve done in the past that’s not been positive and has hindered your journey. I feel if you pay attention to these habits, I know you will find the upcoming year to be successful. Please feel free to share these tips with your readers as many will help them with their journeys.

We’ve all had a hard 2016. Please mourn your losses in a healthy manor, but don’t dwell in the past or live in your valleys. You’ve loss family members, idols and even goals and dreams you had for yourself. There’s a season for loss…a time for sadness…but joy comes in the mourning. Yes, I spelled it right. Find strength in your losses. Always remember the memories and lessons. You cannot forsee the future and there may be more rough days ahead, but always remember to live in the present, feel your feelings and keep moving.

And speaking of feeling your feelings…don’t substitute your feelings for food or other negative behaviors. It’s okay to feel crappy sometimes. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay to feel anxious. Never let anyone tell you your feelings aren’t valid and don’t mask those feelings with distractions. I’ll be there for you if I can.

If I can’t be there, make sure you pray, meditate and please lean on your sisters and brothers for support. You have wonderful people in your life. You don’t have to do this alone. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to let people know you’re drowning. Your support system will throw you a life jacket. Continue to cultivate and nourish your support. They love you…make sure you love them back.

Don’t do too much this year. You are one person. You have to take care of yourself FIRST. You can’t pour from an empty cup. People will understand. If they don’t, it has NOTHING to do with you. Do what your love and do what you can. Learn to say no. Learn to listen to your heart. Learn to listen to that little voice inside. She knows what she’s talking about.

Last but not least…don’t compare yourself or your journey to anyone elses. You are where you are based on choices you’ve made along the way. Don’t feel you are not worthy or you’re not where you need to be based on someone else’s social media timeline. Go at your own pace. Follow the path that’s laid for you. Stay in your lane. Mind your business.

Remember to love this year. Love yourself. Love your family. Love your friends. Love your neighbor. Love your world. Remember to laugh this year. You are excellent. You are enough.

Talk to you soon,



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